2 Real collaboration is not comfortable – it takes courage and empathy
“Collaboration involves attempts to find integrative solutions where both parties’ concerns are recognised and important concerns are not compromised. It merges the insights of persons with differing perspectives, and consensus is gained among those involved in the problem-solving effort through examination and working through of reservations regarding particular aspects of the decision.” (Blake & Mouton, 1970: Robbins 1979; Thomas, 1982 – sited in Weiss & Davis).
To do this, you have to have the courage to express your views and the humility to hear the views of others. But collaboration takes effort and courage.
In essence, it is finding the third alternative (Covey). The win win win!
It is not about being right or wrong. Keep this in mind when you approach differences of opinion and expectations – be mindful of your own attachments and be very very careful that you do not inadvertently make the other person wrong. Avoid polarisation – the fools choice.
The following snippet from The Office demonstrates how this could look like in practice – except funny!